Tuesday, March 28, 2006

Adventures in Brussels... also, I'm gay

Apparently the day in French class when they went over the words for my wife "ma femme" and my husband "mon mari", I had already checked out because I thought the word for wife was "ma mariee" which basically sounds like a feminized way to say husband. It's an understandable mistake really, but it is nevertheless wrong, which Sara has conveniently pointed out to me after I've been using the term for over 3 months. So basically when I've been speaking in French to someone about 'my wife' I've actually been saying 'my husband'. At least I feminized it, so if they do think I'm gay, at least it's clear I'm the masculine one. I'd much rather be a top than a bottom, call me crazy.

Also to Sara's amusement (and I'm sure also to at least a couple people who have heard me claim that I was going to run a marathon before), I've started running again (us tops have to keep in shape, we do all the hard work) in preparation for the ING Amsterdam Marathon in October. http://www.ingamsterdammarathon.nl/home/index.php If anyone cares to join me, come on over. I'm doing it, I don't care if I have to walk the last 20 miles. It's going to be all flat because it's Holland, the weather will be cool, and I've got the mornings to myself every weekday to train for the next 6 months, so I've got no excuse this time.

Other than that, life as normal here in Brussels, where the 10 day forecast looks like this. RAIN, RAIN, RAIN, LIGHT RAIN, RAIN, RAIN, CLOUDY, RAIN, RAIN, RAIN. Don't believe me? http://www.weather.com/outlook/travel/businesstraveler/tenday/BEXX0005?from=search_10day We really should have our heads checked.

OK, enough of my warbling. Hope everyone's well, especially you Carly, Leon and Lucy. We're thinking about you guys!

Here are some photos of our lives here. Kids growing up fast, Spring finally begun, jobs are jobs, looking forward to vacations to Sweden and France in the next couple of months and friends and family coming to visit.

Jekyll

Hyde

Look who's standing and very impressed with herself.

















Pics above from the Rouge Cloitre/Foret de Soignes park near our house a couple of weekends ago. On the way home, we found a sidewalk square below that we had drawn in when we lived in Brussels briefly after college in 1996. Weird to think all that has happened in the 10 years since we did this, and it's just been sitting there while we've lived our lives, and now we're here, living in a house a tenth of a mile away. Life has a weird way of coming full circle.





And that's this week's episode of Deep Thoughts with a Brussels Homosexual.

Monday, March 13, 2006

Further Proof 03/13/06

that parenting turns your brain to mush:

Anyone who's been around kids knows sometimes you have spell out words so they don't go nuts or because you don't want to have to try and explain something that's unexplainable to a 2 1/2 year old... e.g. playground (let's take them to the p-l-a-y-g-r-o-u-n-d later) and condoms (did you remember to buy c-o-n-d-o-m-s so we don't have to take our 3 kids and move in with our parents in 9 months?) Yes, it's taking advantage of the weaker members of our tribe because they lack the ability to spell, but as head lion (no, of course I'm not really the head lion, but let me dream) of my tribe, I'm OK with that. At the rate I'm losing my sanity, Simba could be hot on my tail anyway...

So anyway, my point - the latest hint of the dementia to come is that all weekend I was spelling words out unnecessarily, such as TV, as in (Hey, let's watch T-V when the kids go to sleep) and there were a couple of other morsels of pure genius that I can't remember (losing my memory too). Sara was wondering about me more than usual I think. It made me realize that maybe that Dear Liza song is pretty right on... I haven't reached Henry's level of idiocy yet, but I'm well on my way.

Things here otherwise are good. It's ffing cold, seriously cold, but it was bright blue skies and sunshine today. Man, Brussels has some gorgeous little neighborhoods... picturesque streets that lead onto thes old squares or big, lush parks, but none of what I've seen of Brussels is fairytale looking or forced... it's not a city that's been built piece-meal to attract people to certain areas, those areas have evolved naturally or seem to have been put there by a grand design that serves itself first and foremost... it's just a very natural city with a great blend of buildings and green everywhere. I wouldn't say Brussels as a whole is a beautiful city, the EU buildings for example are very unimaginative I think, but it's got these sections that could rival the prettiest cities I think, especially on a sunny day... Alas, those don't come around a lot this time of year.

Work is going well again after a bumpy beginning. Ethan's starting preschool at the end of this month and is getting potty-trained slowly but surely. Never thought 5 years ago I'd ever utter the words "You went POO-POO!!! What a clever boy!!!" with such energy and sincerity. Ah, parenthood. Sonia is a joy after a rough first few months, a different baby. It's like we're in a movie, and there have been two babies to play the role of 'Sonia'. We fired the first baby diva after 6 months, and this new baby has made the role her own. Sara is also doing well, working a lot of hours, but happy to be home.

My Dad's coming back for a visit at the end of the month, this time with an investor friend of his. We may be getting into investing in some real estate here together, we'll see. Some really favorable conditions in Belgium for buying property; low prices relative to other big cities in Europe and the US, no capital gains after 5 years, 30 year fixed interest only rates at 4 -5%, no income tax on rental revenue, etc. though there is a big up-front tax 12.5% to 21% depending on the age of the property. That's one of the big factors which kept the prices reasonable while London, Paris, etc. have been booming for the past several years.

There's also no capital gains on stocks, which doesn't affect me at the moment but is incredible as well. I'm finding out that Belgium is really set up almost like a Luxembourg or Switzerland in terms of tax shelters for the rich. Yes, that sounds like a very Republican statement... I'm a Democrat, but I'm not an idiot. Tax shelters are a very good thing when VAT is 21% and the top tax bracket starts at 36000 Euros/year and is roughly 53%. Yikes.

I'm writing again which is nice... very cathartic for me, especially as I don't have any coworkers to talk to and spend much of my time alone sitting in this very spot. Might as well make some use of the time in between working and while the house is quiet. I'm not writing a lot, but I'm not pushing myself either, and it's a good feeling, writing to write instead of trying to reach some goal.

I think that pressure to finish something (as well as laziness, procrastination, lack of discipline, fear of failure, the usual excuses) really paralyzed me in Los Angeles. I became used to the writers block and accepted it eventually, but I was beating myself up for a while over that lack of production, which of course is FANTASTIC for the psyche. Anyway, that's over now, the ideas up there may get put on paper before my brain melts into a pool of Teletubbies songs and mortgage terminology, but they may not. Either way, life goes on, there is a family to raise, a wife to love, and of course, in between, there's soccer on TV like 3 times a week and beer that tastes like wine. It's the simple things. : )

Wednesday, March 01, 2006

Here they are... bathtub photos 03/01/06

It's our right and duty as parents to embarass our children. I didn't realize that until I had kids of my own, but now I get it. Our friends, Monica and Brian, have a new baby girl who has her own blog, and I thought it was a good idea, so I'm stealing it for today. Narration by Miss Sonia May.


"But I'm naked!! DADDDD!"
"Oh, what the hell... we are in Europe after all"


"I've caught a whale! With my bare, tiny hands!"
Yum.

"Ethan, that's gross, I peed in here like 2 minutes ago. Yo, check out my whale... Hey, don't think I can't feel those bubbles!"...


"Oh wait, that's me... muahahaha!









"Revenge will be mine Dad. I might look cute now, but just wait..."

Sunday, February 19, 2006

Bunch of photos 02/19/06

My Dads been here visiting for a couple of weeks. Some photos from an evening out.

Musee in the Grand Place

Looking guilty after rubbing the golden woman.

I could have sworn I was taller than him...

Musee again.

Some blonde checking me out...

What can I say, I work quickly.

Town Hall


How guilty do these two look? This is Ethan's new friend, Elisa, daughter of Emmanuelle & Yves. The other photo is of Ethan and Elisa's brother, Sacha, also looking guilty. Gee, who's the common denominator in both photos?






Baba looking happy with his two grandkids.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

P.I.M.P. 02/09/06

Tonight is one of those times when I wish I was in the US, and not only because it's like -3 degrees celsius here, but because the Grammy's are on. Though a lot of those shows are crap, the array of talent assembled at shows like that (the Grammy's, Oscars, Emmy's, etc.) demonstrates how much the creative world starts and ends in the States.

When I turn on the radio in the morning and am subjected to the newest French rap star followed by a love ballad and then some techno song, I truly understand the value of NPR, Power 106, Howard, etc. Did you know, for example, that Ace of Base has come out with new remakes of some of their biggest hits? Well they HAVE, at least here in Brussels.

Apparently the best place to hear good hip hop is in stores, particularly grocery stores, where I've twice been caught in an embarassing situation, once when 50 Cent's "P.I.M.P." came on, and another time it was Ice Cube's "You Can Do It". It wouldn't really be a big deal, but they play the real lyrics here, i.e. they don't edit them. The first time I was standing next to some old lady, reaching for yogurt or cheese or something, humming along under my breath, until it gets to the part "...I ain't that nigga trying to holla cause I want some head I'm that nigga tryin' to holla cause I want some bread I could care less how she perform when she in the bed Bitch hit the track, catch a date, and come pay the kid. Look baby, this is simple you can't seeYou fuckin' with me you fuckin' with a P-I-M-P"... and I'm kind of frozen, trying to see if anyone's reacting, hoping these people don't understand English, but everyone just kind of ignores the awkwardness of it, and I can't get out of that aisle fast enough.

The next time it was even worse, in case you don't know or have forgotten how "You Can Do It" goes, here are the words that seemed to be blasting while I'm waiting to use the bread slicer machine, which normally seems really loud, but wasn't loud enough. "...Everybody will know it Cause I ain’t going for it So pray to the Lord that I don’t pull out Cuss out and bust out Go to nigga raveling Make the clip traveling, uh You can try to smoke an ounce to this While I pronounce this shit Baby bounce them tits Mama move them hips Baby shake them cheeks I got dick for days You got ass for weeks..." Again, couldn't get out of there fast enough. I realized though later that the only one feeling awkward was me, because it's normal for them... and so now I sing along out loud, and when appropriate, throw in a dance move or two.

Speaking of music, I've been listening to a lot of nursery rhymes and children's songs recently, and two have struck me as a bit harsh for different reasons.

1. There's a Hole in My Bucket, you know this song, probably been a while, goes Dear Liza, there's a hole in my bucket, dear Liza, dear Liza, etc. etc.... ( http://www.theteachersguide.com/Songs/theresahole.htm) Well, have you ever really listened to that song? Again, luckily for you, I have, and I've come to two conclusions. 1. Clearly this song was written by a man-hating woman, probably a pissed off wife or divorcee, because 2. Henry is a friggin dumbass. Guy doesn't know how to fill up a hole in a bucket, doesn't know how to cut a straw, sharpen an axe, then the stone is too dry, and he doesn't know how to wet it??? I mean c'mon. Does Henry really have to be made to be so damn stupid?

Though I have to say, sometimes when it comes to the kids, I've been guilty of my own "Henry" moments. Once Ethan had a diaper rash, and Sara told me to put corn starch on the rash, and I wasn't exactly listening I guess and so I used baking soda... they were both in round metal cans, I don't know... Ethan, I'm sorry, please don't use that against me as your "Rage" and write a "memoir" about your life.

2. The Old Lady Who Swallowed a Fly ( http://www.niehs.nih.gov/kids/lyrics/oldlady.htm ) "There was an old lady who swallowed a fly.I dunno why she swallowed that fly,Perhaps she'll die.There was an old lady who swallowed a spider,That wriggled and jiggled and wiggled inside her. She swallowed the spider to catch the fly. But I dunno why she swallowed that fly -Perhaps she'll die." She goes on to swallow a bird, dog, goat, cow, and ends "There was an old lady who swallowed a horse - She's dead, of course." Jesus. This is a kid's song? I think I'd rather the kids listen to P.I.M.P.

I would like to end with those Prophet Mohammed cartoons, but I don't want to incite any more riots. Ha. What a ridiculous world we live in right now. Speaking of which, heard John Lennon's "Imagine" this morning in a brief respite from Ace of Base. What an amazing song, even if none of it will ever come true, at least not on a global scale. Maybe the goal is to make it come true on an individual basis or family basis. OK, I'm getting philosophical... that's one of the big hints to stop typing immediately. G'night. I luvvv you maaannn.



Tuesday, February 07, 2006

Photos Eric took 2/6/06

Here are some of the photos that our friend, Eric, took while he was here. Some good shots. We've misplaced our camera battery but will hopefully be adding some more of our own photos soon. My Dad is here visiting, but we haven't been able to get out as, guess what, Sonia's sick again, for a change. Poor thing. I'm also a little under the weather AGAIN. WTF. The doctor we took Sonia to yesterday said it could be because of the pollution from Eastern Europe and the UK that was trapped over Belgium because of certain weather conditions... fantastic. I'm moving to the mountains.

Museum de la Ville
Maison de Ville Sonia
E & S & monkey E, S, & S. Family shot at the Rouge Cloitre, this old nun's cloister from the 1300's that has been turned into an artist community.


Eric and me in Grand Place
Brrrrr.
Maison de Ville/Grand Place from distance

Petit Sablon
S&S
Ethan trying on Eric's shoes (Eric is a rather tall man)
L'Arbre D'Or according to Eric, my tour guide for the weekend. I just knew this was one of the old guild houses that make up the Grand Place. Think it's a bank now or office space or something.

Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Furniture Shopping 01/31/2006

Settling into a normal life here with Sara at work, the kids in daycare, and me finally being able to get past the technical difficulties to get started on selling some loans. Diapers ain't cheap!

So the kids have finally gotten better. Ethan's still bummed to go to his daycare, but we're looking into preschools now that he should be able to start the beginning of April if he's potty-trained.

We're starting to get the house furnished, but it will be a work in progress for a longgg time. Been able to get a few things from moving sales, and had one kind of interesting experience with that, not because of what we bought, but because of the location and the people. Called up this lady, told me come to this village outside the city, said "come to the left of the chateau of the village, only one in town", I'm like, yeah, OK, whatever lady, see you at the chateau, sure. So we all go there... and it's a frigging chateau. Not a big house, but a chateau... 6 other houses on the property (converted servant quarters I'm sure), a stone bridge that goes over this creek that runs through the grounds, a yard that went as far as the eye could see... I wish I had my camera.

So this woman and her family had the left side of the chateau, a company was renting out the right side, and the owner, a Count apparently who's family had owned the house for generations was in the middle. If that isn't enough, the people that were holding the moving sale are Romanian diplomats, last name was Dragomir, and she answered the door in this long flowing cloak and had this great big head of hair, and it was just all so different from what we're used to... it was just one of those experiences that reminded me I'm in unfamiliar territory here... not bad, not good, just very different. We didn't buy anything from them, their shit was whack yo... but still worth the drive.

On to the more conventional furniture sources, we've had several of the requisite, unavoidable trips to Ikea. I can't figure out Ikea to be honest. Everyone, including us, talks about the stuff we buy there in this disparaging, semi-embarassed tone ("Yeah, had to go to Ikea..."), like it's a trip to the dentist to get some fillings or something, but we all shop there, or at least most of the people we know probably have a couple of pieces of furniture from there. I was thinking about this the other day after putting together several pieces of their furniture and was looking down at that little metal tool that apparently could,



if Ikea had their way, put together just about any man-made structure ever conceived. I realized this callous-creating tool of the middle class had become the bain of my existence, at least for that week, so in need of an Ikea antidote, I went shopping for a dining room table in my favorite part of Brussels, the Sablon, which has a ton of antique stores with furniture with a bit more character.

The Sablon also has all these great museums and galleries, the Royal Palace is a short walk, charming restaurants with outdoor crepe stands in the summer and moules (mussels) stands in the winter, little cobblestone streets with views of an amazing 12th century church if you look down one, and up another little lane the super-imposing Palais de Justice (the equivalent of their Supreme Court building) looms over you. Very cool part of the city. Definitely a must for any Brussels visit.

The antique shops themselves are nuts. You go in some of them, and they go on and on, 4+ floors, and there's so much in each one it makes you wonder how there are any antiques anywhere else besides here... it seems like the entire antique market must be on two or three streets in Brussels. Some of the stuff is garbage of course, but some is so great, with so much character, and it is really intriguing to me to try and imagine the history behind the individual pieces, think about who sat at that table, the meals they had, good and bad times, etc. And yes, I'll finish your thought, I'm a huge dork.


This table above was 1200 Euros (about $1400), and that's just for the table, no chairs. I loved this one, so solidly built, and you know with something that's lasted this long already, if you take care of it, it'll last our lifetimes and can get past down to the kids, etc. But still 1200 Euros is tough to swallow with a whole house to furnish. Pass.

This one below was 575 Euros, had some fantastic iron detail at the base of the table, but because I'm so ignorant on the antiques market, I really couldn't tell if this one is worth it either, so passing for now until I can shop around some more. Would love to get a table and chairs for 500 Euros, but for that price, we may be heading back to the Swedish Maison de Mediocrité... You see that, that's French people... I'm basically fluent.

Quickly some other random thoughts, then I'll end this run-on entry... I've been having a recurring dream of this woman named Elizabeth, who's a mixture between Keira Knightley and Natalie Portman, not that she's like them, but she's actually them. The thing is both are not my type at all, so I'm wondering if this is my mind's weird way of telling me I'm having some kind of separation anxiety from LA. Bizarre.

My Skins lost of course to the eventual NFC representative in the Superbowl. It's a dagger because we had a legitimate shot to beat the Seahawks and then I'm confident we could have beaten the Panthers to reach the Superbowl ourselves, but nevertheless, a much better season than I ever thought we would have, so no complaints. Sean Taylor, our star defensive player, is facing yet another criminal trial and could be sentenced to 46 years in jail for waiving a gun at some people last year, aggravated assault and something else... think he's already on probation for another crime. What a waste if he gets sentenced... so stupid if he's guilty of the crimes. But whether they get him now or later, they'll get him... seems like there's police officers waiting at the games to charge him for a new crime every other week. He's like the Von Trapp family of the NFL.

That's all from here. A good friend from college, Eric Gabrielson, who lives in Amsterdam now with his wife and daughter, visited this past weekend, we had a really good time... I'm going to Bogart some of his photos and add them in with the next entry because he got some good shots. My Dad's coming on Sunday for a couple of weeks... should be fun. Toodles. That's 'French' for bye. Or maybe it's 'Gay' for bye. I always get the two confused. And the offensive final word begins again.